Remember when the most prominent way to meet guys was to get dressed and put on your best pair of jeans that hugged all the right assets, then go to the club and wait for that chance meeting? Usually it involved a subtle glance from a handsome gentlemen across a crowded room. I don’t know about you, but things have changed for me. A chance meeting is becoming the obsolete way to score a date, as there are now numerous ways to meet your next boyfriend, and most of them use algorithms. Today a lot communication is done via social media, chatting apps, texting and dating online. People are more likely to use apps to organize a gathering. The same now applies for the dating world. The need for people to meet each other in a crowded room across a smoke filled bar has dwindled. The tools we have now allow us to emulate those chance meetings, with a swipe.
Much like meeting someone in a public setting, the online dating market can be a crowded scary place. In the gay dating app world I can get discouraged by faceless profiles, body part references and quick fixes. Challenged with the quest to find a tool that focused less on hookups but more on attracting similarities, I tried Chappy, a new dating app specifically for gay men.
Chappy gives users a choice between looking for more serious relationships, ‘Mr. Right,’ or more casual hook ups, ‘Mr. Right Now.’ The app, which initially rolled out in London, New York City and Los Angeles is the brainchild of Max Cheremkhin, Ollie Locke & Jack Rogers, and is backed up by Whitney Wolfe, the co-founder of Tinder and CEO of Bumble. Similar to Tinder, the app approaches simulating a initial attraction with a swipe left or right. Swipe left for a dislike swipe right for a like. The main distinguishing feature is the ‘Chappy Scale,’ a sliding scale which allows users to slide between ‘Mr. Right’ to ‘Mr. Right Now’ depending on whether they are looking for a relationship or something more casual.
“We are passionate about helping people connect in a safe environment where users feel empowered and confident. Bumble has made great strides for women in the dating space and we believe at Chappy that we can do the same for gay men. Being backed by Bumble definitely provides strong infrastructure, wisdom and support.”
My first thought when downloading the App, was are people using it? I was a little skeptical at first but after a few weeks on the App the answer was yes. Chappy is a refreshing way to find a guy, that doesn’t make me feel like I need to go take a shower to feel clean again. One of the things that sets Chappy apart form the rest of the pack, is that you must match with someone before you can send a message. The break from constant unwanted messages like “Looking?” and “Horny?” seems hopeful. I find the quality of the connections made to be a bit higher than using some of the other gay dating apps known for just casual meetings. If you’re a switch hitter, make sure you choose the right photos for your profile that would appeal to both a trick and a husband. The app is location specific so you have to try opening it up in different areas or expand your search radius if you run out of potential matches.
Did I find a date? A few! Can you find a date? This largely depends on your own actions after a match is made. Remember these apps are simply tools. The next and crucial step is to start a conversation and ultimately get out of the app into the real world. I personally like the funny messages built into the Chappy app to serve as conversation starters or to add spice to a chatting session.
“Recognizing that the gay community is in a state of flux, we set out to change the way people meet. Chappy offers users what they want most – choice – when looking for relationships.”
Chappy builds in some unique cheeky reminders to probe people to start a conversation. If a match is made the app sends a notification letting you know there is a new suitor. If the user has not started a conversation within a given period it sends subtle nudges with messages like “A gentlemen always responds“. After getting my first reminder, I made it a habit to at least say hello to every new match. It seems to be working on the other end to help the response rate as well.
Chappy has some other cool features built into the application. The rating scale being one of them, allows the user to specify what they are currently looking for. The rating scale is represented as a sliding scale at the top of the app. The user can change it whenever they want based on their preferences. After changing the rating scale the app filters your potential matches on people looking for a similar encounter.
“Chappy users that choose to match with ‘Mr. Right Now’ or ‘Mr. Right’ using the ‘Chappy Scale’ are only matched with other users that are interested in the same thing, at that time. If their mood changes, users can easily adjust the scale to fit what they are looking for.”
The dating world is evolving to a mix of online dating and meeting in real life. Chappy is a part of that evolution helping people to find meaningful connections and giving the users a preference with the Chappy scale. The user base is picking up so your ‘Mr. Right’ or ‘Mr. Right Now’ may be joining soon. App’s are merely tools to enhance our real life experience so why not try a tool that makes our dating life a bit easier. After using the app for a few weeks I was successful in setting up a few coffee shop meetings, my way of having a quick 15 minute meeting to determine if there is a real match. But that’s a different blog post. No ‘Mr. Right’ yet but I will continue to use Chappy as a way to find my future prince charming. It might take a year, it might take a day, but what’s meant to be will always find it’s way. Happy swiping!